Friday, February 25, 2011
Education Children, Six Mistakes Parents
Too much praise and too many expectations
Parents praise the child is too high really is a burden to children, leading to excessive limits and restraints. When children fail to live up to the expectations of parents, guilt and frustration the child willgrow. Children are more likely to blame themselves and feeldepressed when bad score. Unrealistic expectations will end up as a heavy blow to self esteem and confidence, especially if theparents are always praising children with comments like: "You are very intelligent"!
Parents should consider using specific terms such as excessive:"Good! You have done your homework well today!"
Too curious
Many parents with berlebihanbertanya to his son while returningfrom school. Parents are too eager to understand their children.Questions like: "Does the teacher asks a question today?" "How much value your math test?" "You're playing with who?" Kids will feeloffended and disgusted by too many questions.
One of the more effective way is to enter the world of the child andspend time with him to play and let them do the talking, keep yourquestions. You will find many secrets the children through regularinteraction.
Too Ruling
"Do your homework!", "Turn off the TV." ... A child tends to ignore the orders or requests too often. Parents need to evaluate the effect of their words in the eyes of children and customize according totheir instructions, also set the tone of voice used by children.
Deny feelings
It is a mistake many parents. When the boy said: "Mother, I amafraid of injections. It hurts", a phrase may be used against parentsis: "Darling, do not worry, no pain!" This is actually a lie. Models of this kind will only make the child feel aggrieved and worried. A better way to entertain your child: "Honey, I know that. Injections ofpain, but it will help us become better and faster recovery." Childrenusually feel better when it feels that the parents understand theconcerns and anxieties.
Shouting and taunting
When children are not getting good, some parents would yell atthem: "Stupid! Stupid!" It will only create self-esteem of childrentraumatized. The correct way to assess the problem, not the person,separate the act from the perpetrator!
Failed to set an example
If children fight with someone, then scolded and beaten by parentsat home, children will foster greater resentment and will say to yourself: "If I'm not allowed to fight, how could mama do the samecruelty of this to me?" Parents are really going to lose the trust ofchildren. Parental behavior would affect his son.
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